I still get a lot of questions about my journey and I imagine I will for a while. For the most part I am more than happy to answer questions and talk about it. I am pretty darn proud of this accomplishment.
One of the most common is if I am still in contact with the family.
(I know they get the same question in reverse all the time.)
My answer to this is "How could I not be?
They are amazing and wonderful people. We have been through such an intimate and experience together our friendship is only natural. I love them all to pieces!
The other question I get A LOT is if it was hard for me to "give up" the babies.
I have to admit, I really have to practice patience with this question because I know they were never mine to begin with so how could I be "giving them up"? Problem is that so many people are just plain uneducated when it comes to surrogacy. When I get this question, I know I have to go back to basics and explain the whole process. I patiently explain that there is no biological connection. When you go into this knowing that simple fact, it is WAY different than when it is your own little bundle of joy poking you in the ribs. People will either get or they won't. My hope is that they WILL get it and share with someone else and realize what an awesome thing surrogacy can be.
Inquiring minds also want to know details into the compensation.
From my point of view, the compensation for pain and suffering played such a minor role in the scheme of things. I mean I carried triplets for goodness sake and to answer the next inevitable question...No, that does not mean that the compensation triples. Let me tell you though, they want the details! I have had complete strangers ask me very specific questions and I finally have to say "Why don't you Google it?"
Another really popular question is about my attachment to the babies.
My answer to this is of course I absolutely care about there well being and I think they are precious! I care about them more like I care for my nieces though. They are special to me and I want nothing but the best for the 3 of them. That's why I signed up to be a surrogate in the first place. The simple fact that their parents were willing to risk it all to have this family makes my heart swell.
